Today is the last day of infertility awareness week.
I felt inclined to share with you all my experience with infertility and what I have learned and understood during this time.
I mention in my PCOS post that I was diagnosed with it at 19.
I can tell you that being interfile isn’t just about not being able to have kids, its so much more than that.
First those who have been blessed with excellent fertility skills 😉 and who don’t know what infertility is or much about it here’s a few non statistical things you should know;
Just because someone suffers from infertility doesn’t not mean they are doomed to a childless life. Lots of women who were told they couldn’t have kids are able to get pregnant out of a miracle. Also, theres these awesome things called adoption and surrogacy.
There are different kinds of infertility and different levels. Some may just have difficulty getting pregnant, others require some extra medical help to get the hormones going and some may need to look into other options like mentioned before.
Infertility doesnt just affect the individual on an emotional level. There are physical discomforts that come with infertility. Cramping, backpains and sometimes pain that cause concern.
One someone get pregnant and has a child; it does not mean they are cured and can have all the children they want in the world. They still suffer from infertility and baby #2 can’t just happen.
Now for my peeps, let me tell you guys something that I have learned. DONT BE ASHAMED….to/of
- Feel helpless
- Feel depressed
- Seek help
- Cry some more
- Laugh some more
- Be hopeful
- Be hopeful again
- Negative pregnancy test
- Failed attempts
- Successful attempts that fail
- Wanting to give up
- Not giving up
- Seeking other options
- Talking About it
- Crying About it
- Womb Envy (it happens to all of us…)
- Seeing babies everywhere
- Being mad at your SO for not understanding
- Becoming temporarily crazy
- Your special hormones
- Your reproductive systems
- Having a baby after 35
- Doing Whatever It Takes……
There is so much more I can add to the list.
Guys, it really does suck not being able to do the most natural thing in the world….but all of us who struggle with it, they way I see it is that we were chosen. Chosen to be the best kick ass parents any kid has ever seen. We are meant to create and raise awesome individuals that are going to change this world one person at a time. Those who don’t have kids out of choice, that great too. We were all put here for a reason and need to embrace what we were given and what we chose to be given. Some of those things may not be compatable with each other but we are invincible. We were made to do great things regardless of our natural abilities.
To those married or living with someone who suffers from infertility, please…be patient. I know its overwhelming when someone feels great one minute and the next minute their whole world in turned upside down. Trust me, my husband takes pregnancy test day like a holiday. He takes me out for ice cream or Fo yo to either celebrate or as a pick me up. So far its served well as a pick me up and even though ice cream can’t really fix all my sadness, it definitely helps to know that my SO is in this with me and understands that no matter what its going to hurt until we get good news. Still it doesnt stop us from moving forward in other aspects of our life and creating a foundation for our future family whether its for more than us or just the two of us. =)
Today is another day, take it in….try again next month. It’ll all be ok, you will be ok.
For more Info visit https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/infertility-lessons-what-to-do
also google helps too! =)
“Even miracles take a little time.” — Fairy Godmother (Cinderella)